It was a busy week in my pediatric office (always is!) and one of the hot topics surrounded picky eating. The issue of picky eating seems to be on every parent's list from one to 18 years. Actually, picky eating is not as much of a subject in the older kids, seems that there are bigger issues and also hopefully the picky eating resolved when the child was younger.
I think that food is important for nutrition, nurturing, time spent together over a meal, etc....but it is not a big issue if you are relaxed about feeding your child. If you begin preparing your child healthy meals from the age of one year, provide them with many opportunities to experience different foods, and realize that most toddlers are picky regardless of what you feed them, they will eventually become good eaters.
Parents worry that "they will starve" if I don't fix their favorite food every night. Children are SMART and they are smarter than we are, they self regulate and eat when they are actually hungry. If you provide a well-balanced meal three times a day, most younger kids will eat one fairly well and may pick at two. That does not mean that they need a different meal when they pick or refuse to eat, it just means they are not hungry at that time and should nicely be reminded that they might be hungry later, but not forced to eat.
Along those same lines, when it is snack time later in the day, they should be given something healthy (even that sandwich or fruit that they refused at lunch) and not crackers and goldfish. Again, let them decide whether to eat it. IF you take the high road on this issue, hang in there for a LONG time, you will be pleasantly surprised that they become "good eaters", eat a wide variety of foods and know that you are not the short order cook at home. Those picky toddlers continue to gain weight, learn their colors and alphabet and grow into children that enjoy mealtime together.
That's your daily dose, we'll chat tomorrow.